Working closely with young gang members in Southern California helped me to better understand the drive many feel to “get even”. Revenge seems to offer protection from being hurt, something we all desire. A young lady recently told me, “Nice people get walked on. If I...
In 1990 I sat in my office with five or six young men, aged 16 to 18. We had been talking about the gang activity that led to their being sentenced to the residential treatment program where I worked, and where they lived. A little...
Over the years I have taught parenting classes to an assortment of groups and in a variety of venues. But the most memorable has to be the series of classes i taught to “a captive audience” in Lompoc Federal Penitentiary. I learned a great deal in...
Evidence has been piling up for years: animals can have great therapeutic effects of people of all ages. While scanning the web for research I saw that the University of Pennsylvania School of Veterinary Medicine held an entire conference on “animal assisted interventions in adolescent mental...
“You can never get enough of what you don’t need, because what you don’t need cannot satisfy you.” This observation discussed here two weeks ago (Sept 16) has many applications and implications, and goes a long way toward explaining how we can easily become stuck...
Several weeks ago I wrote about discouragement—the condition in which one finds it difficult to move toward a worthy goal for fear it may not be accomplished as hoped. In that column I discussed ways of helping our children to overcome discouragement. But as a...
There is a good deal of conversation locally about levies and bond elections to make more money available to public schools. Radio and TV ads bemoan Idaho’s standing as “last” in money expended per student, suggesting that this is an accurate indicator of the value...
Ruth and I had been relishing in our first empty-nest experience for the past few months. This past weekend the nest was anything but empty. For the first time in six years all of our children and grandchildren were together. Just a couple of years ago...
With legalization of marijuana in two states and several others considering it, there has been a resurgence in compelling research about the effects of pot. While most media and political conversations portray it as a harmless substance, research and common sense observation have demonstrated otherwise....
Some time ago my son, Tyler, introduced me to “Honest Trailers” on YouTube, silly reviews of popular films. Last night I saw the clip for the 1990 Christmas comedy “Home Alone” and it hit me—this week Tyler will move out, and Ruth and I will...